Greenwich Council Have the Strength to Change

Eye is Bloke <eyeisbloke@gmail.com>
Sep 1

to norman.adams, don.austen, olu.babatola, barbara.barwick, linda.bird, stephen.brain, geoffrey.brigh., mandy.brinkhur., peter.brooks, matt.clare, angela.cornfor., wynn.davies, spencer.drury, mark.elliott, john.fahy, bill.freeman, david.gardner, nuala.geary, christine.grice, matt.hartley, mick.hayes, john.hills, ambreen.hisbani, denise.hyland, mark.james etc…
Dear Councillor,

Hopefully you will be aware of the overwhelming negative reaction to your Council’s recent ‘Dad’s have the strength to change’ poster campaign.

Remarkably, despite numerous complaints, your Council has sought to defend the decision to display these posters based on the logic that ‘the majority of incidents (of domestic violence) are committed by men’.

Such a perception is highly questionable. Research repeatedly shows that women perpetrate physical and emotional abuse at comparable rates to men [1] and that domestic violence is most commonly reciprocal [2].

According to your own estimates, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in your Borough will experience domestic abuse. Based on this, I would ask you to reflect on whether a message suggesting that men accessing their services will likely be perceived as perpetrators is really the most effective away of addressing violence against vulnerable people of either sex?

Last week The Daily Telegraph polled over a thousand men and women and 90% agreed that your Council’s poster unfairly stereotypes all men as the perpetrators of intimate partner violence.

I am writing to bring your attention to the following e-petition: domestic-violence services shouldn’t stigmatise dads requesting that you replace these posters with a more balanced message that shows due regard to hardworking mothers and fathers alike.

Over the past three days over 100 mums, dads, sons and daughters have taken the time to sign this petition and I would respectfully ask that you take the time to read their comments. Comments such as:

As a victim of violence by a woman for years this is hideously insulting. You need to enter the new millennium and realise how many women are violent. Richard

I am signing because I know men who have suffered domestic abuse. I have met one who had had knives in his back, several whose female partners had broken their bones and several whose female partners have driven at them. We have to stop ALL domestic violence. Helen

Stop making dad the villain. Children need their dad’s too. Alison

There will be no harm whatsoever in making this campaign gender neutral. Why choose to demonise the entire male gender? Obaro

There are many more amazing dads that do not need this message but will feel it is targeted against them… Anne

This is simply the most sexist campaign I have seen. Women’s rights movements would not stand for a poster depicting them as the sole abusers of children, why should men be victimised in this way? Barrie

If you are a parent I would ask you to reflect on how you would feel being confronted with such a message on your way to or from a hard days effort to provide and make a difference for your family.
I would ask you to make a positive difference now by ensuring that your Council provides services in a manner that shows appropriate due regard to men as well as women.

Sincerely,

EiB

[1]http://www.prweb.com/releases/2013/5/prweb10741752.htm
[2]http://pb.rcpsych.org/content/35/1/33.1
[3]http://www.royalgreenwich.gov.uk/info/200036/domestic_violence/1428/what_is_domestic_violence_and_abuse%C2%A0

from: Eye is Bloke <eyeisbloke@gmail.com>

to: chief.executive@royalgreenwich.gov.uk
date: Tue, Sep 1, 2015 at 12:56 PM
subject: Royal Greenwich Have the Strength to Change

Dear John,

Hopefully you will be aware of the overwhelming negative reaction to your Council’s recent ‘Dad’s have the strength to change’ poster campaign.

Remarkably, despite numerous complaints, your Council has sought to defend the decision to display these posters based on the logic that ‘the majority of incidents (of domestic violence) are committed by men’.

Such a perception is highly questionable. Research repeatedly shows that women perpetrate physical and emotional abuse at comparable rates to men [1] and that domestic violence is most commonly reciprocal [2].

According to your own estimates, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in your Borough will experience domestic abuse. Based on this, I would ask you to reflect on whether a message suggesting that men accessing their services will likely be perceived as perpetrators is really the most effective away of addressing violence against vulnerable people of either sex?

Last week The Daily Telegraph polled over a thousand men and women and 90% agreed that your Council’s poster unfairly stereotypes all men as the perpetrators of intimate partner violence.

I am writing to bring your attention to the following e-petition: domestic-violence-services-shouldn-t-stigmatise-dads requesting that you replace these posters with a more balanced message that shows due regard to hardworking mothers and fathers alike.

Over the past three days over 100 mums, dads, sons and daughters have taken the time to sign this petition and I would respectfully ask that you now take the time to read all of their comments. Comments such as:

As a victim of violence by a woman for years this is hideously insulting. You need to enter the new millennium and realise how many women are violent. Richard

I am signing because I know men who have suffered domestic abuse. I have met one who had had knives in his back, several whose female partners had broken their bones and several whose female partners have driven at them. We have to stop ALL domestic violence. Helen

Stop making dad the villain. Children need their dad’s too. Alison

There will be no harm whatsoever in making this campaign gender neutral. Why choose to demonise the entire male gender? Obaro

There are many more amazing dads that do not need this message but will feel it is targeted against them… Anne

This is simply the most sexist campaign I have seen. Women’s rights movements would not stand for a poster depicting them as the sole abusers of children, why should men be victimised in this way? Barrie

If you are a parent, I would ask you to reflect on how you would feel being confronted with such a message on your way to or from a hard days effort to provide and make a difference for your family.

I would ask you to make a positive difference now by ensuring that your Council provides services in a manner that shows appropriate due regard to men as well as women.

Sincerely,

EiB

[1]http://www.prweb.com/releases/2013/5/prweb10741752.htm
[2]http://pb.rcpsych.org/content/35/1/33.1
[3]http://www.royalgreenwich.gov.uk/info/200036/domestic_violence/1428/what_is_domestic_violence_and_abuse%C2%A0

cc: norman.adams@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
don.austen@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
olu.babatola@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
barbara.barwick@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
linda.bird@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
stephen.brain@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
geoffrey.brighty@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
mandy.brinkhurst@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
peter.brooks@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
matt.clare@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
angela.cornforth@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
wynn.davies@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
spencer.drury@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
mark.elliott@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
john.fahy@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
bill.freeman@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
david.gardner@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
nuala.geary@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
christine.grice@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
matt.hartley@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
mick.hayes@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
john.hills@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
ambreen.hisbani@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
denise.hyland@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
mark.james@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
sizwe.james@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
mehboob.khan@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
chris.kirby@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
averil.lekau@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
chris.lloyd@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
allan.maccarthy@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
clive.mardner@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
christine.may@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
sarah.merrill@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
clare.morris@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
paul.morrissey@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
matthew.morrow@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
maureen.o’mara@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
steve.offord@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
cherry.parker@royalgreenwich.gov.uk, gary.parker@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
radha.rabadia@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
denise.scott-mcdonald@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
rajinder.sehmar@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
harpinder.singh@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
aidan.smith@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
jackie.smith@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
david.stanley@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
danny.thorpe@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
ray.walker@royalgreenwich.gov.uk,
miranda.williams@royalgreenwich.gov.uk

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